How to Deal with A Copycat “Friend”

Hi, it’s been a while, how are you? I wanted to do a post for #WednesdayWisdom where I could help several people. Since I work with entrepreneurs I hear the pain that they suffer when someone steals their ideas. I have always tried to encourage them to overcome this.

I believed in helping others and sharing information so much so that I created a Meetup.com group for entrepreneurs where we met monthly and shared information and bared our dreams to sometimes complete strangers. I even host a Facebook group with over a thousand members offering free advice.

I encouraged them to believe in abundance and that there was enough wealth to go around for everyone. I’ve said even if 2 friends are selling the same product, they could support one another and both could be successful.

Presently, I cannot be as positive as I once was. I was burned again so as I help myself move forward I thought I’d share it with you because I know I am not the only one.

While I still believe that 2 friends can have the same business and be successful, I don’t believe in stealing ideas or causing your friend to potentially lose business because your products are so similar. The problem arises when a “friend” becomes so inspired by the other person’s business that they begin to copy it with no originality.

We all get inspired, but I try to gain inspiration from outside of my immediate circle to eliminate appearing as a copycat or hurting someone.

 

Let me provide you with an example.

I know many of my readers watch Real Housewives of Atlanta, so currently Kandi and Todd are opening up a restaurant called the “Old Lady Gang.”

 

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Todd Tucker and Kandi Burruss

OLD LADY GANG.jpgTodd reached out to Cynthia’s ex, Peter for advice. Peter flew into town to help Todd and Kandi.

Peter Thomas and Cynthia Bailey             Photo credit: Bravo

I don’t believe Peter would’ve been so apt to help, if Todd opened the restaurant on the same street as Peter’s or if they had similar menu’s, or if their grand opening date was on the same day. I am sure Todd was inspired by Peter, BUT…Todd and Kandi’s restaurant serves southern cuisine and caters more to the family demographic whereas Peter’s restaurant is a sports bar.

Earlier, I put the word friend in quotation marks because I don’t believe a friend would be so selfish to start a business that he/she doesn’t consider the influential person’s feelings.

Let me leave you with this, although I am hurt that someone has copied my business and appears to be doing several things that have led to my success. The one thing, which is the most important thing, that they cannot copy is my blessing or your blessing.

Copycats can try to duplicate your ideas, events, fashion, business plan, etc. but they will never have the blessing God has planned for YOU and you alone and that is to prosper you and not to harm you.

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Source: Pinterest

So, I am going to take the advice of an anonymous writer of the article below and “find something else to do.” I am going to move forward and not focus on the betrayal. I will keep my mouth closed a little tighter and work harder to stay three steps above my competition. Those 3 steps above will be with the father, son, and holy spirit.

Learn more: http://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2014/08/10-ways-to-deal-with-a-copycat/

See you soon!

PBW

 

 

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2 comments

  1. Well said and hopefully more of us can embrace this philosophy of supporting one another without stifling that person’s opportunities.

  2. There is no such thing as friends when it comes to business. They will steal ideas, copy everything you do so that it can benefit them. Make sure plans and ideas are copy righted so that you can sue a copy cat or those who steal ideas…

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