“I Don’t Have Any Friends”

I host a Meetup group and I hear this a lot from women.

Have you asked yourself why?

You probably don’t realize,  when you speak that you don’t have any friends you subconsciously have decided to remain in that state by not doing anything about it except talking about it.

Instead of saying “I don’t have any friends” let’s rephrase it and say:

  • I have not sowed into my friend’s lives as I should
  • I haven’t sought God in choosing my friendships in the past
  • I will go to church/work/school and ask someone to go to lunch, a museum, or if they will be my prayer partner
  • I will meet someone new each day

The examples cause you to take action to make friends. The word of God states that no one can be against you if God is for you (Romans 8:31). This means that you have to be a servant and a friend of God first in order to be blessed with the type of loyal friend that sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24). You are an overcomer and more than a conqueror. You do have friends, a wealth of them, start giving of yourself to people and you will see how many friends you have. Those that are gracious and speak kindly to others will attract Kings and Queens to be their friends – Proverbs 22:11. Don’t worry about being a pushover, seek to please God in your friendships and he will reward you.

The only way to have a friend is to be one.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Romans 8:31, 37 New International Version (NIV)

More Than Conquerors
31 What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?
37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.

Proverbs 22:11 New International Version (NIV)

11 One who loves a pure heart and who speaks with grace
will have the king for a friend.


  1. What will you do today to make a new friend?
  2. What friend have you hurt in the past that you need to apologize to (do not contact someone that will cause you to struggle with drugs, immorality, etc.)
  3. Get your calendar out and write a friendship goal for each month. Ask someone to hold you accountable.

This post is from my book Feeling Down? How to Pick Yourself Up in the Word of God. It’s a 30 Day Devotional. If you’ve enjoyed what you received from God and would like to purchase the book click here.

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  1. I really like this post 🙂 I enjoyed how you explained things by using the word of God and this was my favourite! “The word of God states that no one can be against you if God is for you.” Great post keep it up!

  2. Cassie, in schools and work we are stopped from talking about God. I am grateful to have my own personal blog to share about God and his goodness. Thank you for reading and your comments.

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