Why Being Jealous or Envious is a Good Thing

Photo Credit: Pixabay - geralt
Photo Credit: Pixabay – geralt

Jealous and envy are normal emotions we all have. No one is immune from it, although we like to pretend we are above it. First, let us start off by defining each term.

Jealousy: feelings of insecurity and fear because of a potential loss caused by a third party.

Envy: feelings of insecurity and fear because the individual lacks a desired characteristic that another person possess.

To simplify things, envy focuses on the fear of not having something while jealousy focuses on the fear of loosing something.

Both of these emotions originate from fear, which is a common emotion. It is simply shouting at us to let us know we are feeling uncertain of what is going to happen. To stand up to fear we can either get prepared for the worst case scenario or decide to have faith.

Envy and Jealousy are useful emotions only if they are used wisely.

How do we use envy or jealousy wisely?

This means acknowledging your emotions for what they are, accepting that it is how you truly feel, and productively doing something about it. Use these emotions to better yourself, not to knock someone else down. Knocking someone else down is counterproductive because you are purposely hurting someone else and belittling yourself.

The tricky part to these green emotions is NOT to ignore them or reject them because it will continue to linger. When it lingers, we are more likely to target the person(s) who we feel threatened by or envious of consciously and unconsciously. The reality is that the person who is inspiring your green emotions could be your ally. They could help you get to where you want to be, like a mentor. Also, they would be the perfect person to go to for advice. This is why it is so important to uplift each other.

On the other side of the equation, as a mentor, you might start to feel jealous. Naturally,  because we are human and we have survival instincts.  We fear someone will come along and take what is ours. Fortunately, you can use this emotion as a signal to hustle harder or to have more faith in yourself and the process.

If we look beyond the social hierarchy and at our ego, we are able to see the situation for what it really is. We are able to interpret and accept our raw emotions and face our fears courageously.

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